kindness :: praying for my kids

I used to dread Thursday mornings because the hubby was up and out the door by 5:30am for a men’s Bible study at the church. I loved that he had that time with other guys, but I didn’t love that I had the morning with the kiddos all to myself. (I’m thinking of those mamas reading this that have husbands off shore or traveling all the time…you are my hero! I truly don’t know how you do it.) But my Thursday mornings are pretty different now. Last month my 30 Day challenge was all about getting up early (you can read past posts here). So this morning I dragged myself out of bed (there is no hopping out of bed in this house, hubby often calls me the wounded bunny when I get up because of the lack of hop) and I got my hot cup of coffee. Oh the quiet and peace…only for a brief time because as I write this the baby is calling out and ready to get up. But Thursdays are when I sit by myself and read because the hubby is gone and the kids are in bed. I have found it to be the morning I am most raw with the Lord since no one is around to see me. And the tears poured out this morning as I prayed over my kids and as the Lord revealed something great to me…

Today’s virtue to pray: KINDNESS

Be kind and loving to one another. (Ephesians 4:32)

My kids probably hear me say 50 times a day, “Be loving and kind to your brother or sister or someone.” Ben and I chose early on in our parenting to speak God’s Word into their lives daily. So I picked a handful of verses that I wanted to sprinkle into their days, truth for how to act. I don’t even attach the reference verse to it. I say it like I say, “It’s time for dinner.” So yesterday when Davis was about to throw Reide down the slide while she was all tangled up in a rope and sitting backwards, I yelled out to him to stop. When he came to me, I reminded him, “Davis, be loving…” and then he finished the sentence “…and kind to one another.”

So naturally this verse in Ephesians was the one that I thought of for kindness. But as I was praying for my kids to be kind to each other this morning, I had this moment where I stopped and asked, “How has God been kind to me?”. And this is where I was glad to be alone on my couch because the tears started flowing as I read a passage in Titus 3:3-5…

At one time we were all too foolish, disobedient, deceived and enslaved by all  kinds of passions and pleasures. We lived in malice and envy, being hated and hating one another. But when the KINDNESS and love of God our Savior appeared, he saved us, not because of righteous things we had done, but because of his mercy.

Now this is the kindness I am given and the kindness I pray for my children to have. I pray they are kind to each other not just when it’s easy but when it’s hard. I pray they are kind to those who don’t deserve it (because we certainly didn’t deserve it from God!). I pray that they are kind to the people that others are not kind to. Proud mama moment…at church on Sunday there was a kid in Davis’ class that was having a hard time without his parents. I was told by the teachers that Davis went up to him, put his arm around him and told him it was going to be ok. Kindness at its best!

So as you pray kindness over your kids today, first ready Titus 3:3-5 and remind yourself the kindness God has bestowed on you. That’s the kind of kindness we dream for the next generation to have. And then find someone to be kind to today!