Marriage is hard and building intimacy with your spouse takes a lot of work. Fully knowing each other and fully loving each other at the same time…that’s a commitment. But thankfully we have an example of what that looks like for our marriages. Jesus knows our every flaw but it does not limit or pause His love for us. Rather, He loves us in the midst of those flaws and gives us the grace to grow. But how do you actually develop this kind of intimacy in your marriage? In my last post, I shared that the first key of […]
If you’ve been married for five days or fifty years, you know that marriage takes hard work. And developing intimacy with your spouse is one of the most difficult tasks you will tackle together. This is one of my favorite quotes from Tim Keller’s book, The Meaning of Marriage. It clarifies how difficult intimacy can be. To fully know our spouse and fully love them at the same time is committing to love like only God can love. That is no easy task! But Jesus models this for us in His relationship with His bride, the Church. He fully knows us…every […]
One piece of advice we got as newlyweds was to continue dating each other in marriage. No problem, I thought. We are going to rock this marriage thing and always make time for weekly date nights. And then life set in and almost thirteen years of marriage later, we deserve the medal for the worst daters ever! It happens to the best of us. We want to spend meaningful time with our spouse (hopefully!), but our quality time together quickly takes a backseat to bills, chores, to-dos, kids, sports, exhaustion and everything in between. I can point our dating downfall […]
The things we can store in our memory always amazes me. I usually can’t remember what I had for breakfast but I can still sing the entire opening song to The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air. And I couldn’t tell you one of my friends’ phone numbers today, but years (and years) ago before we had fancy phones, I had every person’s number stuck in that brain of mine. One things for sure, we memorize what’s important and useful to us. Memorizing scripture was one of those things I knew I should do, but I never made a habit of it. […]
Love is in the air…or maybe just in the Target dollar bins. Seriously, it’s exploding hearts everywhere! Valentine’s Day is coming up and for some of us it’s a time for a special date night, some extra goodies for the kids and more pink all around. Honestly, this holiday has never been a big deal for our family. We skip the date night, we let the school parties provide the candy for the kids and we shout out an extra “I love you” on Valentine’s Day. And maybe we eat some conversation hearts too. Other than that, we don’t do […]
There are parts of my day when I feel like all I do as a parent is correct my children or break up a fight. I mean, we are really just teaching them to be humans instead of wild animals, right? But then there are other moments when I get a glimmer of hope and see their hearts toward God. Those are definitely my favorite. As parents, we are the primary faith trainers for our kids. Yes, they learn a lot from church, but they learn more from watching us. Especially when it comes to prayer.
We are a week into the New Year and people are already using the hashtag #resolutionfail. It happens all too often. We create lists with the things we want to do or the undesired things we want to change because this time of year is our fresh start. We leave the old behind and bring on the new! I start off excited at the beginning of every year too because it’s a natural time to evaluate, set goals, make plans, move forward. I get out my pen and start writing down the resolutions that I may want to tackle in the […]
Are you as overwhelmed as I am with what’s going on in our country and our world right now? The brokenness that surrounds us grieves me deeply. And I think about what my kids will experience as they grow up and all I want to do is shield them from it all. Seriously, can we all just wake up in heaven tomorrow? My kids are still very young so there is a lot of shielding still happening around here. But we are also aware that we need to be preparing them to survive in this broken reality. I don’t want […]
Earlier this fall, I sat on the patio of a local restaurant and shared a long talk with a friend going through the toughest time of his life. As I listened to his story and empathized with him, I caught what he meant to be a throw-a-way statement, but one I knew opened the door to a very teachable moment. Friend: So, here I am…in the middle of this crazy mess! Me: I’m so sorry you’re walking through this pain. Friend: Thanks…you know…this is not how I planned for it to go! How many times have we all said those exact same […]
Do you know someone that has lost a loved one? Here are some ways to love them as they grieve.
Yesterday was the first day of school for many kiddos…including mine. Davis started 2nd grade and Reide started kindergarten. The time is flying by! I definitely saw a lot of tears from parents as we were dropping the kids off. Some were probably tears of joy since summer is officially over. But for most, they were emotional moments because their child started kindergarten for the first time and it’s one less baby at home. It’s a major event for sure! I’ve honestly never been brought to tears over it all. I think because my kids have always been so excited […]
One year ago today we were in the hospital holding our sweet little girl and trying to decide what to name her. But what a perfect name we chose. Our joy in a season of deep pain. Landry Joy. Oh, what a year this has been. For those of you who have made it through the first year with a baby, you know…it’s hard work. Most definitely worth it. But still very hard. We feed them, burp them, change them, bounce them, be peed on by them. We listen to their cry and desperately try to figure out how to […]